Help Children Defeat Bullies, Build Self Esteem,
and a Spiritual Purpose Driven Life!

How Brighton Defeats The Black Hole Bullies

It's important for us to realize that our children have imaginary bullies and real life bullies that confront them everyday. How they react and defend themselves is critical to their development and to achieving their ultimate purpose driven life. Child psychologists have long realized that a strong family foundation centered on love, communication and faith are strong precursors to the development of self esteem in children.

Brighton was confronted with defeating his self doubts, his imagined Black Hole Bullies, and his real life Black Hole Bullies - Scorfu, Hydrella, and Darko. Brighton was fortunate to have so many mentors that helped him confront his Black Hole Bullies. They guided him with spiritual light messages that encouraged Brighton to believe in himself, his talents, his light, and to confront fear by confiding in The Light of All Lights. He also learned that violence is not a successful way to confront real life Bullies. He used his light and the light of all his friends to defeat his bullies. He helped others to find and believe in their light as a means of escaping the pull of the Black Hole Dungeon. This goes to the heart of mentoring and leading others to find their purpose and achieve a spiritual foundation. I believe that Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, and Gandhi are all enlightened spiritual beings that are examples of leaders that found their light and let it shine brightly for everyone to see.

How Parents Can Help Their Children Defeat Bullies

We are all aware that bullying exists in kids lives and has a profound impact on their self esteem. The research varies as to how rampant bullying really is but it seems clear that bullying affects a large number of children. According to a 2004 KidsHealth KidsPoll, 86% of more than 1,200 9- to 13-year-old boys and girls polled said they've seen someone else being bullied, 48% said they've been bullied, and 42% admitted to bullying other kids at least once in a while. A recent study looked at the prevalence of bullying in various countries such as Norway, England, Japan, Spain, Australia, Canada and the United States, and found the incidence to vary between eight and 17 percent.¹ Some researchers believe that these numbers are low because many cases go unreported.

Recognizing that bullying exists and helping your child deal with it is not easy. Most children respond by fighting back. Boys are proportionately more prone to engage in violence as a means to stop bullying. The key to helping your child deal with bullying is to help him or her regain a sense of dignity and recover damaged self-esteem. As a parent, the most important element is that you've established an environment where your child will discuss these problems with you. We advocate talking with your children about their dreams, their purpose, the values they most cherish, and inspire them to believe they are chosen to achieve great things in their life. Encourage them to be compassionate and understanding of others, and to help others do the same. This drives bully's crazy. When your child realizes that her/his power is light that is a gift to be cherished and can't be taken from them, bullies lose their power over them. Teach you child to help other's that are confronted by bullies and inspire these children to find their light as well. The spiritual foundation of faith and belief in a light far greater than our own is empowering beyond belief.

If you're not sure that your child will discuss these challenges and doesn't yet possess a strong spiritual foundation, you will need to probe in non-threatening ways to encourage a conversation. First, be sure to:

• Recognize the problem in non-emotional or judgmental way.
• Be a good listener and comfort your child.
• Assure your child that he or she isn't to blame.

Then begin probing with questions such as these:

• Who are your best friends?
• Who don't you like at school?
• Why? What happens during the lunch hour?
• Who do you play with during recess?
• Are their any kids that aren't nice to some of the other children?
• Do you think there are any bullies in school?
• Are there any kids that send mean emails or instant messages to other kids?

1. Glew G, Rivara F, Feudtner C. Bullying: Children Hurting Children. Pediatrics in Review. 2000;21 (6):183-189.